A Message for Sensitive Souls


‘…This post is intended to assist those noting a palpable change in their emotional state that cannot be solely attributed to their current experiences and recognize these feelings as such…’

Neptune is in retrograde opposition to the North Node. For all of us. So, for we, the Collective, the way forward is foggy and appears to ‘have no legs’ and certainly no instruction manual. You are someone who feels this more acutely than others.

In addition, the Sun and Mercury are in Scorpio. For all of us. No matter what area of your life is ruled by Scorpio, the Collective is focused on probing and/or fearing the unknown. Many of us intuitively feel we are not well equipped, that we are at a disadvantage. The shadowy forms that we see shifting, out of the corner of our eye or coming straight at us in some situations, have the chill of the boogie man. Trust and Security on any particular issue are rare commodities.You are someone who feels this even more so than others.

These two energy phases are just plain edgy like a razor  half wrapped in a bit of cotton wool. Unfortunately, they actually feed one another. And they are present in our current everyday reality, occupying the only ground that we can stand on – and that just drives us all to maintain probing or fearing mode:

On what and where, exactly, am I standing?!

This is how the world is vibrating now and if you are an empathic person, a person who easily senses the vibe of the collective, you will be subject to all of the symptoms mentioned above exponentially. The temptation to self-soothe, to avoid reality, can be overwhelming. Your state of mind may be swinging wildly between suspicion and indignation to crumpling and desperate clinging.

Note: For some, attempting to manage this is difficult beyond description and if this sounds like you, please seek assistance. Often, local communities offer a range of services. I write this as a general public offering due to a significant number of clients, from diverse social/economic backgrounds all reporting similar symptoms. This post is intended to assist those of us noting a palpable change in our emotional state that cannot be solely attributed to our current experiences and recognize these feelings as such.


If this sounds familiar, this message is for you:

You are not going crazy, you are experiencing a circuit-overload that requires a breaker installation.

In the grand scheme of things, this is yet another blip on the radar. This phase has an end; you will not feel like this forever more; this is temporary.

If you are up for it, you can try to imagine, to picture your inner Self observing this, perhaps as a dark cloud-mass. There it is. It is not you, it is outside of you. Perhaps you can watch your inner Self step back and prove there is a space between you and the mass.

If that space can be held at this time, there is yet more truth-gold to be mined. There will be a wispy thread or two connecting your Self to the mass. (You are a part of the All One.) These threads can be followed via conscious, patient, relaxed examination to their root levels in your psyche. You aren’t looking for some watershed moment here; you are simply being open to whatever inner landscape/sensation field these threads appear to be anchored in. There is my inner Self. There is that mass. And there is that thread through which I exchange energy with Others. I watch for a while, observe for a while, and see if I pick up any insights.

Take Charge of Your Self-Soothing

At the very least, empaths and sensitive souls should be actively bear-hugging themselves. In whatever ways you can afford, indulge your senses. Get comfy and get lost in books, in the stories and adventures you find there; try out an adult coloring book; collect the ingredients you need for your favorite meal – or to zing up your basic menus – and savor; go out exploring in new environments that keep you rubbernecking as you go; put another blanket on the bed. Change the colors or focal point in your workspace and your living room. Put something symbolic of peace or joy in your car. A simple tea light lit in the evening can be a profound addition to your view. Do all of these things and more! Be as good to yourself as you are to others.

I have written before about how very important you are. And I firmly believe that sensitive and empathic people are a large segment of the crucial Space Holders. This means there is all the more reason to take loving care of yourself.

Sending you wishes for rest and perseverance in healthy balance,

  • weaver



Personalised Energy Coaching     weaver@neptuneandtheoak.com

Blessed Are the Space Holders

By now, many of us are moving or, at least, are poised to move into a landscape of forward motion. Me, I’m at the tail end of ‘poised’…its all good: here in the Med, there’s a different quality to time. But regardless of the year in motion, I want to give a shout out to so many of you that haven’t had a real break in a long while. I have been quite preoccupied lately with the line you walk each day and I want you to know that you are appreciated.

There are many of us doing a crucial work for the overall fabric of macro experience, often but not always in a highly private way. It’s service rarely spoken about and usually without any monetary reward. That last point is a biggie in the material world. It’s big because we almost always judge ourselves in comparison to so-and-so or the value of our efforts to the pay rate of a ‘real job’. You might feel quite exhausted but if you don’t get a pay check for it, then it doesn’t really count. You wouldn’t put it on your resumé…

I am talking about Holding the Space on behalf of someone else who can’t, for some reason, hold their own.

Often it’s the family matriarch or somewhat retired grandparents who insist it’s no trouble to put any plans they have on hold and keep a warm home environment going years beyond expectation. I have also known it to be the big brother of a mentally handicapped person, a ‘boomer caring for an aging parent, a spouse; the cleaners and preppers at shelters, the holy workers on frigid nights distributing blankets and gloves down back alleys. But these years, as our cultures and traditions are shaken up so regularly, the variety of Holding continues to inspire. I have now seen it more than once in western teenagers employing patience and independence as their parents grow (or not) through a rough patch and in the villagers of tiny Greek islands who have nothing whatsoever left to offer but still turn no one away, even as they defy man-made laws.

And here is the key component for Holding Space: Voluntary Service. Beyond tradition, culture, demographic, and sometimes beyond purse strings, an emotional or spiritual decision is made – a holy vow, really – and actively put out there.

Most cultures say a person should be ‘here’ by this age, accomplishing ‘that’ by the next age, be able to overcome challenges certainly by that point in time, should have a back-up plan ready to kick in, should have thought about this before now, will just have to endure the ups and downs of life, can only take out equivalent to what has been put in, and in comparison to the Successful People, had better measure up or fade away. This mentality keeps the masses productive. And it’s good to strive.

But then there is reality on the ground: people fail to measure up to the familial or traditional role that’s been assigned. Even if Life doesn’t care and isn’t fair, Space Holders do and they are doing it for someone. They are effectively bartering their energy in place of another and this puts them in a place of mighty yet volatile power.

It may have been ages since those you put yourself out for have given any kind of progress report or a smile, even… You want to get on with your working life, your intellectual life, the challenges that you choose to undertake, the schedule you want to keep…your freedom. You feel pressurized but have nothing to show for it.  What you once did effortlessly for love has become like a prison.  And this, in turn, can make you feel worthless because it doesn’t bring you financial security. In fact, sometimes it’s a financial drain, too. But to let this kind of mentality grow is to circle the spiritual drain.

The collective KNOWS that there is a real cost, a denial of self-interests and a brake on the spirit for those who serve. When we stop and consider your work in the community, whether we know you personally or not, that you raise the overall vibration of Life is clear. And yet, it is also the lot of the Space Holder to be unseen and unheard, unsung and unexciting. For intangible reasons, you manifest tangible services. Remember the inspiration that invoked your unconditional offering. Find ways to feed that inspiration, perhaps to examine its current validity and redefine its application. Keep that space sacred and so, it will hold until you understand that it is no longer necessary.

The person says ‘I am’; the ego says, ‘That is how I am.’  ‘Know thyself’ means to the person: know yourself as being. To the ego, it means: know your being-that-way.  – The Luminous Vision, Anne Bancroft, pg 38

You are not alone – in fact, you are legion. You are the silent engines and rudders that have literally kept civilization going for millennia. Please remember these truths in lonely moments when your ego wants to alter your true identity. Focus in the rightness of Being.

These experiences are rough and yet they are precious: the more of us that have them, the greater our collective empathy and compassion becomes (and we are trying to move that big ship…).

A thousand blessings on our Space Holders!


– weaver