“Development involves both change and challenge and also continuity. So to see the norm as stability is wrong.” – Michael Rutter, King’s College London’s Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology & Neuroscience
Talking story is the Hawaiian expression for sharing about yourself. How cool is that?
“Resilience initially was talked about as if it were a trait, and it’s become clear that’s quite the wrong way of looking at it. It’s a process, it’s not a thing…
[Just as the body needs to be exposed to germs to develop immunity, so does the psyche:] “Development involves both change and challenge and also continuity. So to see the norm as stability is wrong.” – Michael Rutter, researcher at King’s College London’s Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology & Neuroscience
“Autobiographical memory is the process whereby you record and encode your own experiences and make sense of [them],” explains Eamon McCrory, Professor of Developmental Neuroscience and Psychopathology at University College London. “We know that individuals who have depression and PTSD have… an over-general autobiographical memory pattern, where they lack specificity in their recall of past experience… We also know that kids who have experienced maltreatment can show higher levels of this over-general memory pattern. And longitudinal studies have shown that a pattern of over-general memory can act as a risk factor for future disorder.
“One hypothesis is that the over-general memory limits an individual’s ability to effectively assimilate and negotiate future experiences, because we draw on our past experiences to be able to predict the contingencies and likelihood of events in the future, and use that knowledge to negotiate those experiences well. So… over-general memory might limit one’s ability to negotiate future stressors.” Lucy Maddox reports in mosaicscience.com
Practicing resiliency: yes, we have been saying that over and over again this year. As long as the nodes are in mutible houses, flexibility is a key word for all of us. You can consciously start by practicing in little ways every day…to repeat, ‘its a process, not a thing’.
An ‘over-general memory’ is a new articulation for me. I really like that it provides yet another descriptor in my counseling and coaching work, a new way to launch discussion. And its got me thinking on a fuzzy memory or two of my own. The natal astrology wheel is so very personal and unique; unpacking that wheel, facet by facet, via the mind/body/spirit experience of Living Now cannot help but expand our understanding of our memories and the wiring our story has wrought. The subsequent gift is a genuine and applied appreciation for the others in our world.
Take a trip back in history with an interview from the 70s in the Paris Review. Excerpt: ‘Jan Morris was born James Humphrey Morris on October 2, 1926, in Somerset, England. As she recalled in her memoir, Conundrum, “I was three or four when I realized that I had been born into the wrong body, and should really be a girl.” …But he would live as a man for the next thirty-six years…
Is there a book you’ve written as Jan that James would not have written?
Pleasures of a Tangled Life. The whole point of this book of essays is to try to present the sensibility that has been created or has evolved out of “the conundrum experience,” as we say in our evasive, euphemistic way. People who come to interview me at home often ask, Do you mind if we talk about the conundrum thing? The book tries to present, to readers as well as myself, what kind of a sensibility has resulted from this sort of thing. I think the conundrum aspect runs subliminally through the whole book. I recognize that the pleasures, nearly all of them, are ones that I enjoy in a particular way because of “the conundrum thing.”
Do you feel that having been a man at one time in your life gives you more courage to make excursions on your own?
Yes. There’s a hangover from the confidence I had as a man. When I started, the feminist movement hadn’t really happened, so, of course, there was more of a gulf between a male and female traveler. Now things are very, very different. Many women are unnecessarily timid about travel. I don’t believe it is so different for a woman or a man nowadays. Of course, there are actual physical dangers of a different kind. But the general run of hazard is exactly the same for men as for women, and the treatment that a woman gets when traveling is, by and large, better. People are less frightened of you. They tend to trust you more. The relationship between women, between one woman and another, is a much closer one than the relationship between men. Wherever a woman travels in the world she’s got a few million friends waiting to help her.
I think perhaps there is a bit of ‘bubble-speak’ in that last statement but its lovely in theory. But wow, what fortitude, faith in self gnosis and loving support Jan must have sought and summoned. RESPECT.
For a 21st experience of another female journey (you can work on your empathy skills, guys) – and a lot of laughs out loud, watch bad feminist, Roxane Gay, keepin’ it real.
The Illusion of Understanding
‘…we have this fantasy of a machine reading, or machines being able to watch television programs and figure out what’s going on. Obviously, the three-letter agencies would like to do this. But if you want to advance in science or technology, we’d like for machines to be able to take all the literature that’s out there and synthesize it in a way that people can’t. This is part of why I do AI, because the potential is there to totally change medicine, to invent science that we haven’t even thought about. To do that, we need machines that can read, and to do that, they need to go beyond the data. There’s just not enough data to brute force your way to scientific understanding…’ – much more from Gary Marcus of Geometric Intelligence at edge.org.
Death is the ultimate field-leveler. So we all have a role to play in reimagining the end of life experience. The challenge is that it’s a topic people tend to avoid. – Dana Cho at Core77 on ‘how design can truly make an impact in people’s end of life experiences.’ They are welcoming everyone to share their stories and ideas in an effort to transform this stage of life experience.
It’s understandable that readers would expect a mention of the brexit from me and I do have a couple of thoughts to share. 1. It is my understanding that the age group of 18-24 year olds are a substantial voting block and they wanted to stay in the E.U. 2. It is my understanding that the majority of 18-24 year olds did not get themselves to a voting station. And now they are upset. So, Get Real. Ideals require effort. Magic requires effort. 3. While I can well appreciate the pros of the UK remaining in the block, there are absolutely some very positive potentials that this island nation could navigate into being from where it stands now. Who is going to work the hardest for their version of what is best now?
On a related side note:
Birthdays – and conceptions – occurring from the 23rd of February ‘88 through 6 February ’91 all carry the energy imprint of Neptune, Saturn and Uranus in Capricorn.
I look forward to big slices of time for contemplation on that ‘unfolding picture’. I would be delighted with any feedback you may have.
’til next time, be well. For personal guidance, reach me at email@example.com